Who have friends or families who are really bad at giving you advises?
And I mean those that would tell you face to face, ‘You cannot become a leader; you don’t have the quality to learn anything; you’re not a good listener; you’re impossible to teach; you’re not gonna succeed in whatever you do; I’m never gonna support you; I’m never gonna follow you; you suck at things! You’re unteachable! etc. etc. etc.!”
Well, I’ve been facing lots and lots of words like that, since I was a child.
My mother told me that my grandparents gossiped that I’m never going to finish school, guess what, I finished Elementary, High School and College; and I’m thankful and grateful that I graduated as an academic scholar.
I’m not sure if she’s telling the truth, but I’m thankful that I was able to graduate.
And by the way, there’s more; she said that my father’s sister gossiped about me since I was a child that I’m going to have a child without a father because my mother is giving me with my wants.
Guess what, I’m working on not making that happened to me; which I really hope not; that’s tough.
I’m not sure if she’s telling the truth or not; all I know right now, is that, my aunt’s (who gossiped about me) daughter became a single mother. But I love my cousin. I love single mothers. In fact, I have friends who are also single mothers. I’m proud of them.
Yesterday, I drunk friend of mine, told me face to face…
… that I’m never going to become a good leader, and that I don’t have the quality of becoming a good leader.
He said, ‘You’re unteachable! You cannot learn! You cannot listen. You can’t be successful in writing! You’re not going to succeed! You LACK skills! You’re a graduate but I’m better than you!’
Well, something like that…
And many more…
But I would really try to pursue writing and become good at it.
Wish me good luck!
And in case you’re experiencing the same,
here’s a good exercise for you to try.
“Hold your breath while you think of those negative words from a friend or family members; think of a counter-statement and an opposite vision of what they judged at you; hold into that new thought, and then breath out the bad words or judgments that they threw upon you!”
See if that works!
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Cheers to you success!
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